I can't speak for all non-binary people, but from the level-headed ones I've met, there have been different viewpoints depending on the person. One individual literally wanted to not look male or female, wanted to even have their genitals removed completely, be bald, totally ambiguous. Being seen as one or the other made them very uncomfortable. The other person I knew was my old endo doctor, who was biologically female, but transitioned similar to how a trans guy would - testosterone, top surgery, total change in voice. But they didn't want to ID as male, and got an X on their ID card. There are is no way to transition hormonally as non-binary, there's only male and female hormones, so I guess it's more of an identity than something physical for the people I've met. I'm very transhumanist, and I'm chill with someone's identity as long as they don't force it on me, i/g: push for pronoun checks in mundane spaces, or push for gender abolitionism.
While I'm not in denial about transsexuality, I myself don't like the word trans for myself. It makes me nauseous. Maybe because it has a stigma attached to it, but also I've always felt like the opposite sex even as a child. I try to live as stealth as possible IRL.The thing about hormones is, they're so fucking potent, they change fat distribution, skin texture, hair density, breast growth. Sexually speaking, being with a trans girl isn't THAT much different from a biological female, excluding genitalia. The soft skin, curves, soft hair, and demeanor is so similar that the parts that are different don't matter to me. That's why I refuse to call myself queer, I'm gay, not queer. I think it varies on the person too, if a person is all loud n proud about being trans, wears that ugly flag, doesn't pass, or dresses ridiculous, then I'm not attracted to them because I like women (my non-trans gf is exactly the same way).
With that being said, I don't support the pressuring of people to date trans people. For some, the genitals really matter, or they don't like the idea that the person used to be the gender/have secondary sex characteristics that they're not attracted to. Totally fine.
I don't support trans people in sports where there is an advantage, or even risk of advantage. Err on the side of caution.
I reject all notions of gender performativity. Altering one's hormone levels, secondary sex characteristics, isn't cirque du soleil. I loathe Judith Butler for muddying the waters on that. It's transhumanism to me. And I'd love to know more about the science behind what makes a person trans, or hell even if there's a way to make a person even closer to the sex they identify with, but the activists block any progress in that regard, because of the 'performance' narrative.
It's been a year of soul-searching. And in that, I've discovered just how much time I've wasted, not only PLAYING video games, but outside of playing them, hanging out in those spaces. I've always been drawn to games with certain visual aesthetics. Be they dark, whimsical and anime-esque, tasteful fanservice, I've always gone for characters that I could relate to, wearing outfits that I would wear. And it kind of turns me off knowing that, if I'm playing a game, say Cyberpunk 2077, Vampire the Maquerade, The First Descendant, Stellar Blade, I'm thinking "holy shit, I wouldn't mind cosplaying this character," or "I wouldn't mind wearing a similar outfit to a nightclub," but the majority of people sitting behind the computer screen are dumpy guys, probably wearing a baseball cap, and saying "bruh" and "sheeeesh!" a lot. I've always hated how CHAV and dweeb-ish gaming spaces are. Even games that were play